Human life begins from couples and ends to families. So, live with a couple and get hand into your mouth”

In this planet, the fit mental people believe, the leading and power in the world depends on the number of population which holds the country while there are some other claims those from the western countries which mention, it depends on the availability of economic, education, technology and other resource but really, they are going to mislead the health minded people into a wrong path which against their deem of patriotism.

Because, if there is a huge of population, it may include both high and low income society, advanced technology with education and some others, and it may create all of the other resource which the country can be developed.

Since, we know the population include this difference classes, do we study clear the reason that we follow the western ideas based on family planning, limit of population, problem of scarcity, gender sensitivity and so others?

I am wittiness, every job vacancy from western organizations in Somaliland are marked at the bottom of job announcement paper “female are encouraged to apply it.” Is there any body who thought about this helpful of the female only, but not the male?

I have got, the commonsense of mine, it is exaggeration which needed to give the wrong impression to the leaders of the life and families that we have such as; mothers, housewives and sisters.

In addition of this foreign interference, we have some other problems which come from us the families. Because, some parents become conscious, they don’t have any supplementary income without depending on their children.

Therefore, no matter, whoever the parents need to get their income support from their offspring, but it is difficult to get from their daughters. Because, the girls are feminine don’t have ability to survive their life like masculine. If the girls get a good husband who will be taken their responsibility it is sufficient to them.

It is absolutely good enough, let girls live with their husbands for a freedom about their couples. If they are interested to give their parents a financial assistant it doesn’t matter.

However, the most problem which the youth faced is to be indecisive to the early marriage where they are young age because they claim that they have some circumstance about economics.

In the contrast, there are some parents attempt to their daughters to get married with a good behavior and  high commitment men, but they began some other interests include; money and welfare, when they need a financial aid from their offspring. So, that is caused the hesitation of the youth for the girls even if they had a long relationship.

The parents say, “my daughter, I don’t like to live with you, a man who doesn’t care with you, because marriage has changed you and you don’t look like as you were before, do you have a different life than when you were with us, I don’t know what happened to you mom, do you feel any suffer from your husband? Does he deal with you as comfortable or not? Do you think that you are harder life than you were your mother’s house?  Mom, don’t worry the life! Your dad is a perfect the life of his daughters, he can afford to cover your life and he can do for you whatever you need, and I had never thought that you feel an anxiety. I am sorry whatever you met from him”

The parents also said, “Dear mom, you are a beautiful girl, you will never worry about your future, you can get a better husband than this, so, please, take! My advice, come back your mothers house, and you will be same your counterpart girls.”

Whenever, the youth encountered the recrimination of income, they decide to postpone their marriage until they get an extra income for their life. In addition, some times they faced some problems form their parents which is bothered to their life with their wives while they are saying, “Mom! It is not only you for the first one that we see who loves you, and believes a girl who introduced a few days before but I have never thought about the way that you dealt with me. Hereinafter, I can’t make a strong relationship with my children because I know how I love you and how you gone deal with me.”

So, these parallel pressures which from the two families caused these hesitations of marriage and this frequently missing of the affectionate couples. Really we know the rate of divorce raises day after a day. The number of single men who do not keep on there mind even to get married recently can’t be measured.

There fore, who do you think, responsible for this sad disaster? Do we say the parents are responsible or not? I do judge it is responsible for combination of aggressiveness of the parents and bad economic conditions that we are.

Thus, we can not deny the rationality of the life; we have to consider the parent and persuade the girl that we have same interest, how we achieve our goals and we accomplish the future that we going to finalize.

The parents also should respect the willing of the youth who need to start a new life and going to stop evil actions. They have to support and give them a chance that the couples live together alone.

I do agree there is a very competition which competing the number of population in this world. I do support this idea; there is a number of our offspring who evacuated from homeland in to the abroad, who are a hard competition among western countries. What is the interest which the western countries obtaining from our society? Do you think the western countries are better humanity than Muslim world?

I don’t think that is an ideal thought which intended to help poor people but I do sure, it is ideology which needed to manipulate the unwise people and the westerns are going to modify the culture of our offspring.

I do sure that you can result the single life endurance; evil actions, life of stressful, illegal action, phobia of the other couples, mental and sexual frustration, worry, restriction of memory capacity and paranoia.

In my calculation, my brothers and sisters, my mothers and fathers, my friends, my colleagues, my peers and my community, really, I am suggesting you the single life is a disaster and sad of human endurance. So, think about how to get a couple, how to make a companion with considering any circumstance that you have. Because, the sharing life makes a meaning and the meaning of life is enjoyment. Have you ever asked yourself?  Why the whole people thinking to make better life than this? Does the meaning is to make money and other property with enjoyment life without marriage. No! The answer is the whole people struggle much better life than single life. So, no matter whatever circumstance, that you have either bad luck or good!  Either, he is good income or survivor so try to be a couple.

Mohamed Jibriil Elmi
Freelance Writer